daddy are you there ?
daddy are you there ?
You lived as a good and generous man
93 ans
in fidelity to yours who are dear to you
93 ans
of simplicity of modesty of silence even
93 ans
presence on our land
reflection of an elsewhere much bigger than us
93 ans
and then nothing
and then we
was
your children your grandchildren your great-grandchildren
who form a microcosm in this grand universe
a miniature world
a world of beings in the making
a world moving towards the future .
daddy are you there
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in our hearts
in memory of a time spent together
with lots of moments that come to the surface
breaking away from a bygone past
in elevation of an experience to bear fruit .
tell daddy where you are now ?
I remember that time when you went to work on your bicycle
from Grenelle to the beautiful neighborhoods
and what mom said
that we would meet you
and that even without talking to you
even when you held back your emotions
even when I was counting on my fingers
additions and subtractions
even when I was drawing a heart
on the mist of the square in rue Saint Charles
I was waiting for you .
Daddy you are no longer of this world
peace to you
in this eternal place .
And there will be a day
where we too
we will disappear
and what will be said
if we were great
if we were hateful
because everyone knows how babies are made
but do we know how dads are made !
To have restarted your sleepy being
in my heart filled with light
I exult in leniency and love
in recognition of you
my dad to me
our dad to us your children
prolonging by a simple detour to be alive today
the obligation to continue our work
not to be afraid to move forward on our path .
Faire
do well
make or break
let's not shrink the world
to its vagaries and its suffering
there are also wonderful things happening there
and it would be criminal to trivialize these things
let's get in touch with each other
strengthen our ties
collaborate celebrate gratify glorify beauty
so that in this separation from you, Lucien, who brings us together today
so that in the tragedy of death common to all of us
remain in meditation
remain silent
remain in this moment of meditation
stay in love .
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three small candles
Three small candles
and what come back
the testimony of hours spent in harmony
the thrill of the depths of creation
capturing the breath before it bursts forth
the strength of a look behind the glass
the subtle presence of eternal being
the marquetry of extinct memories
the bewildered perplexity of illusion
the brilliance of a comet that never happened
the apprehension of appearance
the calm of repeated gestures
the romance of old songs swapped
the beyond of the forms awaiting their fulfillment
the enchanting transcendence of the moment
the calm in front of this being leaving towards the open
the wound felt in contact with broken glass
the sliding of fingers on fresh skin
the tradition perpetuated by recognized objects
constantly renewed experience
the fluid sand of nomadic aridity
the dense hatch of sedentary force
the conquest of matter in light of being
the transparency of the outpouring of the finished work
the rising of the curtain in front of the sun
the rise in consciousness towards the heart of the world
the intimacy of being enshrined in law
evidence of evidence accessible to the artist
the blurring of events in the redemptive mist
the restoration of our interior lands
the long and humble work of clearing
war against shadows
the good man in his restorative instances
the fresh complexion of our faces become wise again
music in restrained asceticism
beauty in grace of being universal .
To be alive in wondering reverence for secrecy
to remember the traces of humans
to breathe in the only worthwhile reality
the fine breath of good posture
daily praise
the contemplation of a simple colored stone.
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Bien sûr qu’il eût du courage

Of course he had courage
that man
to live long years with caution
simplicity and modesty
to steer his boat
along the daily banks
without having to ask where to go
without seeing the time pass
slowly progressing towards the estuary
where the limits slip away
where everything turns gray
that the view darkens
lack of air
that the mind no longer responds
but where does it go
triumphant in his expectations
the mystery
this uncreated light
this intense light coming from very high
this gap
habitée de vieilles âmes
this frail skiff
disappearing in the mists
this high point
merging with the horizon
in remembrance of what comes and goes
the space of a held breath
in memory of what was
traces of your name on the scarified trunk of the tree
be assigned
to transform this bittersweet writing
in duty of conscience
walking on the path
understanding of what is
crepe of the reopened wound
an end of summer
as a stare fails
at low tide
in him whose heart dwells in love.
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Aging alive

receive life like a gift as a present. Inhabit all ages of existence childhood the youth adulthood old age. Improve like good wine too young the wine is acidic maturing is the work of time. Don't be obsessed with body stigma traces of time passing the bitter wrinkle is only the kiss in continuity of being Dwell in life and in intelligence. Every day make discoveries intellectual affective sentimental Everyday be in the new Vivre. Do not look on the neighbor's plate don't be jealous stay in oneself at the window of wonder. Grow again and again. Aging is not being old to grow old is to go in life to be old is to lose the taste for life. Be intellectually curious look at existence like a child without being an eternal child look at existence from the perspective of youth without being an eternal teenager. Always go further. The longer we live, the more we build this distance which allows you to be there while already being elsewhere. With a single gulp seize the dusting of things before the lamp goes out so that shores reached to dissolve the space of a smile with the blowing wind in the light of the coming day . 162
stand on tiptoe
hands up to the sky
to touch the stars
and then realize
that they illuminate
these hands
hypnotic candle flame
that we don't want to see go out on a windy evening
beeswax hands
to spell your name on the clouds
slip off death row
Avoid trifles exchanged at Heaven's Gate
do nothing more
for bare head
in humility
receive
this outstretched hand
in the silence of poetry
clear sound
of the keyboard of all music
towards which to walk
slow explosion of sentences
on the invisible of the encounter
to make visible the pretty blue of a sky
smoothed by fairy fingers .
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A dot on the i

pure space dans lequel fleurissent et se perdent les fleurs Le sens aigu de la citrouille se découvre calèche L'ange me convie à ne plus toucher terre with its diaphanous wings Un souffle Une caresse Un vertige tranquille empli d'exquises senteurs Les cigales stridulent Tout concourt à la redistribution du livre d'heures Du point pierre éclate l'envol soyeux de l'âme Oiseau de passage et si présent Éloquence élégiaque defenseless more like a fire Et si persuasif Que ces choses vides et indifférentes in tender familiarity Me somment d'être en dehors de moi Pour d'une mort éclose Donner sens et amour En retour de mission.
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l’imagination créactive
L'imagination active the creative imagination that creates in and through action imagining it letting itself be carried away by what is he is I' " being " in the thick of things the i-magine Maginot lines in their frozen concrete for measured defibrillation get in the airwaves which come and go and are spaced out creating the intracellular vacuum weaving logical associations . There is singular scope every time a face lights up the top of the dark shale wall bright eyed face and white beard that the soft voice makes vibrate . Scale of Life torn from the first reptile that the wind blows away from the path to the prickly bugs . Fog horn heard when from the valley ride the breath of the beast . Stamped indentation Avogadro's number whose open jacket reveals the heart oozes with myrrh . Momentum in flight so slow angels above chestnut and holm oak candelabra in my house . Vertical thinking out of the impulsive wave imprinted scents the roughness of the glabrous exchanges . Monosyllabic return panting of the animal out of the woods edge of beginnings . just yourself in whom the other without ankylosis take the bloat out of tradition under the veil of acceptance . Sagacity at the risk of being just a turnaround at the dawn of the new day . 159
Psychology, what heals
Of point of the person who meets a shrink :
L’intention. want things change in my behavior, let the sufferings ease .
The relationship, the quality of the relationship, to face each other, where the individual becomes a person. The quality person is always interpersonal ; there can be no “is” without one “tu”.
“I do not really become a person only when I look you in the eye and I allow you to look into mine.”
Establish the link, a bond by which one feels welcomed and accepted in one's be, a connection felt deep within, far beyond what we can say and express, a bond that makes you feel naturally at home self, and that an essential exchange will take place .
the speech.To be welcomed with its own language. My language is me. It's what makes me be in the world, protects me and defines me. It's a essential part of my identity. my language, these are my words but also this that my physical body shows through movements and microphones – signs .
Healing is belisten, it is to meet a professional who is in a present state and not tensevigilance, whose attitude of active benevolence can move me and make you want to confide in me. I wait for the other to be calmly centered in himself and that his unconditional acceptance of what is is full and whole .
is to be heard andwelcomed without judgment.
This isto feel by my body, my psyche, my soul and my affects what is happening in me about what is happening there, so different by the framework of the meeting and yet so close to me bytrust which is established .
This isnumberconcisely and most clearly possible what i feel .
For the practitioner :
It is to identify by listening as broadly as possible to all the elements of the process of meet, in a continuum of consciousness, in Le contact in the process of unfold there between us, in the contact that is established here and now but which nevertheless illuminates the past and the future .
It is to create a climate of lightness and freedom for the other, which also allows the identification analysis elements .
This iscreate a frame just as concrete as symbolic and imaginary, clear and safe, but which must not be a wall adjoining to allow access to the real setting .
It is to launch tracks, hypotheses, milestones, which the other can seize if they are its scope, without being redundant with what it is, nor too far from his emotional capacities and understanding of the moment. This isadjust creatively and with relevance to situation .
It's loving everything the having of this being before oneself in what it gives .
This isto love the being of that being, his accumulated wealth in his life story, its potentialities and what it is in the deployment of himself, in its unfolding towards its growth of being, in its opening to world .
This is maintainthe right distance between him and me in order to update and work on the disturbances in the relationship between him and his environment, with maximum clarity in feel and readability in expression without forcing the other to be other than what he is where/and shows its entourage .
It's clearing all the elements ofconfluence, fromprojection, d’introjection, fromrétroflexion and D’egotism in what is being played out about our meeting. It is to be the tactful mechanic who sensitively dismantles and reassembles the small pieces of human machinery that remain very much alive during the existential transaction that connects us, conjugates us, declines us and we grows up .
It is to consider the other as a growing human being, like a pilgrim on a path initiatory, embarked on an uninterrupted path of consciousness. be a man, is to be a traveler, Always moving .
This isfrom the beginning, from where the other is, with his life story, with his emotions that feed the emergence of what unwittingly hatches in the crucible of our contact. The quality of being “nobody” and not an individual implies a quest for his true identity for the purpose of constant effective individuation towards what one is really .
It is to hold the course and be theguarantor of the frame, to record what is happening, was, in the space-time of the present encounter and in the succession of our encounters .
This isexperimentwith relevance, situations that happen to the rhythm of the one who comes in confidence to be treated and under the guidance of the one who is responsible for caring for him. So will be able to emerge these elements of the psychological mechanics at work in our psyche, not in hitting the other with peremptory diagnoses and restorative balms but by directing him towards paths where he himself may be able to give meaning to what is happening .
Do not use histheoretical knowledge only with caution. Theory and technique cannot embrace the whole of the psyche, the psychic treatment being a ” total relationship ” who engages the practitioner as much as the patient far beyond theory and technique .
This isto be patient without being wait-and-see .
This isbe stimulating without preceding the other on his way of life .
This isto be fair in his actions in the sense of“justice” so as not to deceive the other and give him desire to go even further in self-knowledge .
This is be in creative fit with what is there, correct the, in the here and now and aftercontact .
It is to live in simplicity, in humility and awakening the psychology session where the work also goes beyond our cognitive abilities to clarify situations, good beyond what is said here, and where the change that occurs there is as much skills matter, than vitality andself-healing abilities so stimulated that the no one possessed deep down .
It is to prefer the uncertain and sensitive value of human activity experiencing what happens the, to the reassuring tranquility full of a priori, of inferences and false certainties of those who know how to go about treating, of one who calms – although it is sometimes necessary – , failing to register the person in a step ofresponsibility and conscience to build itself his happiness .
Poetically your is to know that in the mists of the morning just as much as in the twilight of the evening, there is everything around us that is not us, that live or have lived by multiple people and that the world is full of possibilities for meeting and dialogue .
open up in self-respect to what is other can only be relationship who heals .
It is to bethe adventurer of his future, onwonder and in view of its behaviours, on the way to well-being on your lifeline. This is belibre, which is not easy because as Kirkegaard says : ” The most terrible thing given to men is the choice, freedom . “
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to like, yes but for good

There arethree initiatory modes of the meeting allowing love .
The best isa sudden emptiness of the soul in which the images disappear, ideas and words are silent, freedom and clarity open up suddenly within us in such a way that our whole being is seized. Everything becomes prodigious, deep, evident in what is distant and infinite incomprehensible. This contact is a pure breath of intelligence .
A way more ordinary crosses the desert in which, although we can't see anything, understand nothing, feel nothing, otherwise a kind of pain and anguish, we are drawn and dwell in this darkness and this aridity because it is only there that we find a little stability and peace. As we progress, we learn to rest in this arid quietude, and the soothing assurance of a comforting presence and powerful at the heart of this experience is growing more and more. Reveals in a light which is painful for our nature and all its faculties in walk of being, the hard-to-sustain attraction of becoming much more than what that we seem to be. We are then infinitely surpassed and the purity of this attraction conflicts with our selfishness, our blindness and our imperfection .
And then there ison the way to tranquility full of flavor, of rest and sweetness in which, without there being nothing that satisfies especially the senses, l’imagination et l’intelligence, the will rests in a deep, luminous and absorbing experience of love .
It is then that raise before you the Person, ce support, this soul mate, this mirror, this otherness, this extraction out of its own image, this requirement to resemblance, what I exist for in the encounter, what i can do drown and that by which I may also be revealed. Place your bets, do your “is”, necessarily in relation to the other, trying However, do not get too attached to the other .
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loneliness can be learned
The physical loneliness, external silence and true recollection are essential for those who want to lead a life in conscience. but like many things in this world are only means to achieve a end, and if we don't visualize the end we will misuse the means .
It's not to run away from men, that we ourselves retire to the desert but to better see the world in which we are and seek ways to be more useful. Some who have never experienced true solitude will be able to affirm without hesitation that the solitude of the heart is the only one that matters and that the other, outer loneliness, doesn't matter. But these two solitudes are not incompatible. One can lead to the other .
The most real loneliness is not outside we, it is not the absence of noise or the absence of being around us ; it's an abyss that opens in the depths of our soul, a need for food never can be satisfied. Only one way leads to loneliness, that of the hunger, thirst, pain, vulnerability and desire, and the man who has found loneliness finds himself empty, as if drained by death. He crossed the horizons, there is no longer a way for him to take. He found in a country where the center is everywhere and the circumference nowhere. He do not travel anymore because it is by remaining motionless that one discovers this country .
And it's there, in this loneliness, what begin the most fruitful activities. This is where you learn to work in the relaxation, to increase their vision, to see in the darkness and find, beyond desire, a door that opens to infinity .
Materially, conditions are necessary. You have to have a place, in nature or in a room with a room where no one can find us, bother us or just notice us. He we must be able to detach ourselves from the world to really be of this world. We must liberate ourselves by untying the tense and tenuous ties that bind us by seen, hearing, the smell, the feelings, thinking about the presence of men. And when such a place is found, let's be satisfied but let's not be troubled if we are forced to leave it for a good reason. love this place, let's go back as soon as possible and don't change it for the slightest peccadillo. And in this place, let's breathe easy, naturally, without precipitation, so that our minds can rest, forget your worries, to plunge into the silence and the secrecy of all things .
Some men evoking inner loneliness think it is possible to live in the middle of the world and its confusion. They admit that outer loneliness is good in theory, but argue that it is better to safeguard inner solitude while living with others. In fact, their life is devoured by activities and strangled by attachments of all kinds.. They fear inner loneliness and do everything they can to escape it.. And what's worse, is that they try to draw others into activities as vain and all-consuming as their own. They are great servants of “the cause”, great creators of more or less useful work. They print programs, write letters, and phone for hours. They are happy to organize meetings, from banquets, conferences, courses and events. They animate and spend themselves without counting. They will even be able to bring together a large number of people around the theme of loneliness with so much solicitude that the tumult, interpellations and applause can only remove the spirit of loneliness from its unspeakable accuracy .
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